Arriving in the rooms of AA, NA, or OA in all appearances we looked like anyone else in the room. Usually we were adults ranging in age from 20 all the way up to a person in their 80s or 90’s. Sometimes we were still in our teens. At first, we couldn’t understand why some of you seemed to be so harsh with us. It seemed as if you were talking to us as if we were children. You told us, “get a sponsor!, make 90 meetings in 90 days, read the Big Book every day, etc.”. You almost sounded like our parents. Why didn’t you talk to us like an adult.
As we began to immerse ourselves in the program and work the steps we came to a realization. The reason you had been talking to us like a child was because when we were active that’s exactly how we had behaved. We had been totally self absorbed just like any 2 year old. We had done things without any concept of the consequences of our actions. Our actions often mimicked those of a rebellious teenager.
Through sobriety our way of life began to approach our chronological age. Though a bit late, we finally began to grow up.
Personal Reflection: Do I need to grow up in any area of my life?