I Am Not Anyone’s Therapist

The concept of sponsorship is actually quite amazing. He or she is a person who you can call on a daily basis. When we do so, we are free to tell them anything we want. We can be totally open and honest with them. Part of the conversation can include advice on some of our issues. Part of sponsorship is to share how we handled similar situations. Most amazingly, all this is done without paying the sponsor for any of his or her time.
Where some sponsees make a mistake is when they start thinking of their sponsor as a therapist. Sponsors are not trained mental health professionals. They don’t have advanced degrees in psychology or social work. What they do have is life experience in alcohol and drug addiction and more importantly in recovery. If you are looking for understanding how your family of origin contributed to your addiction or how your issues of self esteem can be addressed, it is more appropriate for you to talk to a therapist. They are trained to help you examine these areas. In the program, we encourage members to seek out professional help. As sponsors, we are more concerned with how you will live life in the future; as opposed to understanding your past. If your sponsor starts analyzing you, maybe you should think about getting a new sponsor.

Personal Reflection: Am I playing therapist or patient?

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3 thoughts on “I Am Not Anyone’s Therapist

  1. Agreed! Balancing recovery and a program of action together with the knowledge of when to seek outside help is a very important issue. Rather than analyzing my sponsees, I find myself telling them not to analyze themselves. The goal is to focus on taking the next right step, right here and right now. “Analysis paralysis” does not produce recovery.

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