There are people in this world who walk around on tiptoes. They will never give you unsolicited advice. Sometimes this comes from a healthy place. They will only provide you with solutions to issues when you ask them for it. Then there are people who will never speak their mind for fear of other’s disapproval.
There are people at the opposite end of the spectrum. They have no difficulty whatsoever speaking their mind to you. They are full of advice on all things human. Quite often we might react with exasperation to this second group. “Who the heck is she to tell me what to do, or tell me why I’m doing it”?
In the program we learn to spiritualize our experiences. When we allow ourselves to get beyond our defensiveness and rationalizing, we find that these people often have a point. Quite frequently, their observations are accurate. We just need to be open and honest with ourselves in order to hear it. Part of that spiritualization is a belief that G-d speaks to us thru others. Unfortunately, we don’t get to choose from whom. We also think that our Higher Power has a sense of humor. Some of the most difficult people have accurate observations about us.
Personal Reflection: How can I improve listening to comments from difficult people?