In the Western world we often define success by how many possessions we have, the cars we drive or the homes we live in. If we don’t have the latest version of the iPhone or the latest cut of suit, we are in some way flawed. We suffer from a disease of comparison. We look around us and measure our success stacked up against our family, friends and neighbors. For people suffering from addictive personalities, this can be extremely harmful. Generally speaking, when we make comparisons, we usually end up on the short end of the stick. Feelings of inadequacy only fuel our addictive tendencies. As they say in AA, “poor me, poor me, pour me a drink”. That “poor me” feeling is often generated by envy and jealousy of another’s “net worth”.
As we grow in recovery we begin to discover the true meaning of self-worth. It has nothing to do with the externals of wealth. With the blossoming of emotional sobriety we tap into what really matters in this life. Experiencing personal growth, conducting ourselves with integrity and helping others define our true worth.
Personal Reflection: how much do you focus on your net worth vs. your self-worth?